Conformity

“The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you but yourself.” - Rita Mae Brown

I found this quote and I thought, what a true statement. I have always done what I thought everyone wanted me to do and everyone was happy, but me.

But, after 50+ years of doing stuff for everyone else, how do you turn it off and focus on yourself?

I was thinking I could, but maybe I can't.

When life starts to spiral out of control, you go back to what is easy. What is simple. What feels like second nature. Just to do whatever it takes to make everyone happy. Even if that means you are unhappy.

I was so enjoying being happy, but it looks like I need to focus on keeping everyone else happy and never mind myself.

My best friend is upset with my husband and my husband is upset with her and I am caught in the middle. Oh, what a mess ... how do I fix it? Conformity, you just do what each one needs you to do and hope to work it out. I am not so sure that it will. But I am going to try. I know I am not supposed to use that word, but ... I don't know what else to do ....